Like many others, earlier it seemed to me that self-love should be manifested in endless self-improvement, external grooming, reaching heights and choosing ideal relationships.
For many years I was sure that I love myself, because I get so much.
But the relationship with other people was still painful, often destructive, neurotic. The scheme did not work.
When I was at the therapist, the simple question of what kind of person I was, put me in a stupor. Like an attempt to find out what I really want.
The path that I passed was very long and continues to this day.
And I will try to tell you about the three most important moments about How I fell in love with myself
Firstly, I met myself.
When we love someone, we strive to learn more about it. Surprisingly, we completely forget about it with ourselves.
So it was with me. I was focused on the inner experiences of other people and completely did not follow what is happening to me.
The first step was the acquaintance of Mila with Mila.The more I learned about myself, the more I fell in love with this girl.
Secondly, I accepted myself.
No one person can be 100 percent positive and wonderful. I ceased to scold myself, especially for past mistakes - there is no point in this, the situation will not change.
I gave myself the right to be sometimes bad and stopped striving for some notorious ideality.
I stopped comparing myself with others and Of course, I began to praise myself more.
Thirdly, I started taking care of myself.
And it's not about spa-salons, but about internal needs and morale. I found opportunities for regular psychotherapy.
I have learned to define my needs and satisfy them. I stopped shifting responsibility for my happiness to other people.
And I stopped taking responsibility for other people's feelings and others' happiness. So I stopped wasting my time trying to change others and found it more useful.

P.S. It`s very hard to to lay all the two-year work and the most powerful internal insay in one post. But I hope it will be useful at least one person.
P.S.S. All good. And love yourself, love!