A fairy tale about Love. About the happy Vivian from Pretty Woman (yes, for me too, Christmas is not Christmas without this movie), with whom the rich businessman Edward fell in love and managed to change his life for her. Do you remember? “And what happened next? He came and saved her?” “No, she saved him”.…

Perhaps we believe too much in fairy tale endings in the waiting, now immediately, in great happiness, in that one day it will meet us too.… All this is fine, except for one thing – we often forget to perceive, but also to experience the present. And to rejoice in the little things. And at the same time, as if we want to accelerate the development of the relationship and would prefer to have it without clouds, let alone storms and hail.

But it is not like that. Especially nowadays. The equation of two young people meeting, falling in love, getting married, having children and staying together until death is no longer valid. Many of you are experiencing stories full of tears, pain, renunciation, temptation, misunderstanding, disinterest or ignorance, stories of silence or, conversely, painful news, when both parties in the relationship realize what complications they are experiencing, why their relationship cannot be realized, why it hurts so much, why an innocent misunderstanding can become a huge problem and yes, even how fragile and defenseless Love is.

That there are not only sunny days, but that there are also those in which you literally dig your mouth in the ground, you are exhausted, with swollen eyes from crying and with many sleepless nights. That you have to be silent where you want to scream in pain, and have a poker face when your heart is broken. And that the worst thing of all is to pretend to be indifferent to the other and remain cold when you don't know the solution to be together and are afraid to show your love so as not to hurt your beloved even more.… (this applies especially to men).

And these are the moments when you ask yourself what to do? NOTHING. I repeat. NOTHING. Try to calm yourself down, breathe, draw strength from nature, from animals and trees, try to sleep and eat something and .. not give up on Love. Keep your heart pure, without resentment and hatred, nourish Hope in it and protect the Love that was born between you. Before everyone. Even before yourself. Remember with gratitude the time when the relationship flourished, and humbly accept and rejoice in every expression of closeness and interest in the present, even if it is a simple wish for a beautiful day.

Because this Love symbolizes your relationship. Nothing and no one can erase it, cancel it, or deny it if we accept it within ourselves and name it. If we understand that it will live on, despite the distance or obstacles that separate you from your loved one. That it is the gift and good that we have been given. That we learn and grow thanks to it. And yes – it hurts. Only – no love can be great if we do not recognize how much it hurts when it is not there.

Try to calm down and collect yourself. Are you not pushing the relationship too hard? Are you not easily swept away by emotions, even negative ones? Wouldn’t it be worth waiting a while until you calm down a little and perhaps know all the circumstances? What if you react extremely dramatically to a situation that is innocent? And what if you lose the whole war for one battle fought with sweat and blood? Just so that it is over for you? Once again, please – really calm down and humbly accept reality, the present, and let things happen. Let the Universe work!

I wish you all the best, may you be happy and loved.

Because you will be 🙂