We often hear that a man should pursue, court, invest his efforts. It is all as if it were written in unwritten rules written by someone long ago. And few people think about the fact that in reality, mutual exchange is important in these relationships, where both parties play their unique role in supporting the partner. But what if a woman wants to change this dynamic and take on a role that is often associated with male expectations? And is there anything wrong with that?

Let's start with a banal, but often heard idea: a woman should not be the one who initiates something first. Not that role. She should be a woman - soft, wrapping her energy around, giving in, and a man - the one who acts. So, the old-fashioned way, right?

But don't we know that the man who is responsible for the family's well-being always risks being the one who feels the burden? He is often forced not only to meet, but also to meet the highest expectations from those around him. Those same obligations - perhaps someone did not take into account how hard it is to be the one who makes the first steps. To be a person who at some point will stop being satisfied with the results and will withdraw into a fight with all the stereotypes generated by the outside world.

I believe in the strength of both partners. And if a woman wants to take a step to ease this burden for a man, I do not understand where the problem is. Is it really not fair enough to allow a woman to enrich the relationship with her actions? Why can you invest and help only a man, but not vice versa? Funny, right?

What do we know about a man who wants to support in a relationship? Or builds a significant part of his life precisely on satisfying other people's expectations? It is difficult for someone to get a part of everything. It seems that a woman has the right not only to deserve attention, but also to return the same power by paying back and sharing something of her own. The main thing is not to accept it as a simple duty.

And I, like any woman, have thought about such things more than once. I have always been tormented by the question: how to be a partner without giving in to the rigid framework of other people's beliefs? Today I am sure that any initiative, be it some kind of romantic or quite businesslike, is associated with the sincerity and desire of the one who offers. For me, this is an opportunity.

Yes, sometimes, letting a man understand that I am ready to take part of the financial responsibility, it is worth stepping into an uncharted zone - after all, sometimes it is difficult for a man to accept help. Some feel fear, lose confidence, because these are stereotypes with which we have lived for a long time. In the end, no one can replace this, and all situations are different. Some time ago I had to create conditions that suggested that I could help him: this did not reduce his self-worth, but on the contrary allowed him to see the fullness and balance in the relationship.

When a man sees that he wants to allow himself a break from the one who always has to carry everything on his shoulders, then we help to clothe him with our ideas and mix in this uniform reality, who has what role. Yes, sometimes you want to separate them more in the way women should understand. Support as from a friend or a trusted partner will become a true strength, experienced!

Can I be right?

Lana Banana