A carefree life is not about luxury or diamonds. It does not mean “free plane tickets to the Caribbean every month.” It is about making a man feel safe, not anxious. After all, no matter what they say, the difference between women who are able to pay for dinner and those who expect to “get everything on a platter” seems significant to many men, especially those who are used to being “behind the wheel.”

I think this makes many men feel uncomfortable. There are many stories of men in relationships who start to get lost when a woman who feels more “independent” comes into their lives. It’s hard to comprehend, but it is precisely these relationships that can make one of the partners unnecessary. Men who are used to being the first in financial matters suddenly find themselves in the background. This upsets the balance that they have always sought and maintained. But is it important? Is it necessary? The answer to this question has always depended on the woman herself.

It seems to me that men perceive a woman who can pay for dinner and offer him a life free of material problems as a kind of threat to their self-esteem. On a subconscious level, many begin to think: “What if she gets used to all this without me? What if she doesn’t need my effort, my care, doesn’t want to see my face after a long day of work to “warm up” her life reality?” A woman who does not need material support does not mean that she is deprived of something important in a relationship. It's just a different dynamic.

What if a man realized that such a woman can afford personal freedom and does not require difficult decisions from him every day? It may be a surprise, but one of the best ways to create harmony in a relationship is not to be dependent on each other. We all have our own lives, our own energy, our own path, but sometimes it is important to go beyond these habitual views and build a new relationship, where all decisions are made not out of fear or reproach, but simply because this choice is beautiful and sincere.

Life will not always be easy, even if you are a woman who is ready to take responsibility for her comfort and safety. Perhaps there will be a man who can appreciate your independence, see your sincerity in desires, understand that you are looking for and need not a hero, but a best friend, a partner who also wants to be loved and appreciated.

In fact, it is such men who create the most valuable union - when men and women can be equal couples, respecting each other's successes and supporting each other. It may be a little scary and unusual for some, but try to find pleasure in it. You don't need to try to try on the role of a weak woman who needs endless support. Sometimes freedom, even financial, makes us more open and more understanding.

And what are your thoughts?

Lana Banana