Agree, everyone has had such days. Someone stepped on your foot on the subway, forgot to thank you for letting a car pass at an intersection, or a colleague in the office unfairly raised his voice. And even if these are little things, there is a gray cloud in your soul. "Why me?", we think. But you know what? We really can choose how to react, and this is the secret to peace of mind.

What we really feel
One morning I couldn't get out of a traffic jam on the road, I was late for a meeting, and to top it off, a client decided to tell me how unprofessional I was (ha, he was wrong!). I admit, instead of taking control of the situation, I spent the rest of the evening convincing myself how unhappy I was.

Often the reason for our irritation is not the incident itself, but how we perceive it. One incident pushes us into a whole stream of thoughts: "This is unfair!" or "I don't deserve this!" And this feeling gets stuck, although the situation is long gone.

How to change perception
Stop, observe and analyze.
When I realized that I was wasting energy on trifles, I decided to try a little trick. The next time the world seemed to have turned its back on me, I said to myself: "Stop. What happened and why am I reacting so strongly?" Most situations do not deserve such serious emotions. Did you get pushed on the subway? Maybe the person is rushing to see his sick mother. Late? Yes, it is unpleasant, but it is not the end of the world.

Make the situation funny.
Recently, my coffee mug decided to remind me how painful it can be to drop it on your foot (yeah, my toes almost fell off). In the past, I would have been angry. But here I said loudly to myself: "Here is the proof of gravity!" Absurd? Yes. But I laughed for half a day.

Find the reason for your vulnerability.
Sometimes little things hurt us so much because we are already tense. Maybe you did not get enough sleep? Or have you been feeling underappreciated lately? Once you understand the root cause of your condition, it will be easier to filter out unnecessary emotions.

Did your colleague shower you with reproaches, although the IT department is to blame? Replace your anger with a neutral phrase: "Let's figure it out together."
Did the cashier at the supermarket yell at you? Imagine that her day was even more difficult, and smile at her, sincerely wishing her strength.
Received a reprimand from your boss for a small thing? Tell yourself: "Everyone learns from mistakes" and stop going over this situation a thousand times.

If you learn the art of treating little things easier, life becomes easier and more joyful. Moments of irritation will not go away, but they will stop controlling your mood. After all, these are all little things that you can leave where they belong - in the past.

Try to look at your emotions from a new point of view, and one day you will discover: that very day, which used to seem "bad", has become just another bright episode of life. And perhaps you will even smile at this memory.