After 30, it seems that life experience should already be strong, and failures should be lived through. However, very often with age comes not only the realization of all the mistakes of the past, but also the understanding of how many unnecessary things we still carry with us. Unnecessary people, pain, habits. And most importantly - the ability to let go. To free ourselves from what pulls us back.

I myself faced this when I realized that I continue to keep in my life "some things" and people who, well, do not serve me at all. For example, for a long time I could not forgive myself for an old unsuccessful relationship, and, frankly, because of this, many things did not work out in new ones. I was so “trapped” in the past that I couldn’t dig myself out and continue living a full life.

But with age, after a lot of self-reflection and reprogramming of thoughts, I realized that too much time and energy was spent on something that could no longer change my life. Why is it worth letting go?

1. Forgiveness is not for others, but for yourself

One of the most difficult decisions is to learn to forgive. And here we are not always talking about people, it can be forgiving yourself for mistakes made or bad choices. When I first truly realized that forgiveness is more of an act of liberation than an act of guilt or mercy, my relationship with myself began to change dramatically.

An example from my life: one of the old projects in my career failed due to my fault, but instead of letting go of these memories, I returned to them for months, reproaching myself. As soon as I said to myself: “Listen, you are not God, you could have made a mistake,” the burden immediately fell.

2. Letting Go of Other People's Expectations

After 30, we often start to feel like the world around us is trying to dictate how we should live. We are constantly trying to please our parents, friends, colleagues. Such unnecessary obligations can bring true relief when you finally let go of other people's views on how you should be.

Imagine living every day as if you were taking an exam. What will my co-worker think if I show myself like this? Someone seemed to say that I shouldn't choose this profession. You can drown in your thoughts about other people's expectations if you don't learn to pause.

3. People who are not on your wavelength

I realized that I often kept people around not because I needed them, but because I didn't want to admit that their presence was weighing me down more. This applies to both romantic and friendly relationships. Sometimes you need to have a difficult but important conversation with yourself and understand that a person, even if they love you, is not always “your person.” And perhaps the world is waiting for other meetings, other people.

I had friends with whom I continued to “chat,” feeling that each conversation was taking away my energy. I came to the understanding that you need to let go of those relationships that do not support your personal growth, even if they have been part of your life for many years.

4. An imperfect plan is also a plan

Many of us strive to control every step of our lives: an ideal career, an ideal relationship, an ideal body shape. And what does this lead to? To a state of constant stress. It is great to understand that not everything will turn out the way you planned. And this is normal.

When I realized that I cannot plan absolutely everything in my life and that sometimes situations themselves will suggest the right path, then life became easier. I began to just go, and not “plan to the point.”

Conclusion

Letting go does not mean forgetting or losing, but rather wisely meeting new horizons. And the sooner we let go of past grievances, fears, and expectations, the easier it will be for us to move on. Let us all learn to let go - ourselves, other people, old mistakes. And in this, a new, lighter world will open up, ready to give us clearer opportunities.

Think about whether there is something in your life that is long overdue to be left behind?