And her husband, Andrey, does not work.

And now, it seems, from this moment you already imagine the same thing - a typical "slacker", a person without ambitions. Society is arranged this way: a man is judged by his status and income. But let me destroy this pattern.

Andrey is an amazing person. He once dreamed of becoming an architect, and he even had a job, but after a few years he realized that a life dedicated to office drawings and deadlines was eating him up from the inside. He left. Vera supported them. At that time, they lived on her small salary, ate only buckwheat and built their life together.

A couple of years later, Andrey found himself in teaching - now he gives private drawing lessons. Someone will say that this is not serious, but he puts his heart into every lesson with children and adults who are picking up a pencil for the first time.

They are happy. Honestly. It is visible to the naked eye. But what is happening around? As soon as their family becomes a topic of conversation, Andrey immediately turns into a "dependent". Some will snort, saying, "the man is sitting on my neck." Others will say directly: "But he is just lazy!" And you know, he heard it. They heard it.

How annoying that a happy life has to be justified to those who look superficially.

And now a question for you: what do you think?

People are used to hanging labels, but rarely do anyone think about the fact that each story is special. We are sometimes so dependent on social expectations that we forget about the main thing - to love, to find ourselves and not to hide behind other people's standards.

Why am I writing all this to you? Because you are reading this now, which means you may be standing at a crossroads. Maybe you dream of a relationship, but at the same time you are afraid that you will not live up to someone's expectations. Maybe you are even afraid that you will not earn enough for a future family. Or, on the contrary, you will earn money, and then someone else will judge you - for the fact that your woman does not have the right career or her clothes are "too" expensive.

Let's be honest: social pressure will always be there. People around us will still think their own. The only thing that matters is your own principles.

The secret of Andrey and Vera's happiness is simple: they support each other. Without games of whose contribution is greater. They do not have an "ideal model" to look up to.

This is my message not just about them. This is a message about us, about you and me. About the courage to live for yourself and for your loved one. About the fact that happiness has no formula that will work equally for everyone.

It doesn’t matter where you are now and what you do. It doesn’t matter whether you earn millions or live on an average income, whether you are making a career or searching for yourself. The main thing is to understand that your value is greater than the label that is more convenient for someone to hang. And to find someone who will see your depth, despite external circumstances.

I’m sure you know what I’m talking about. We are all looking not so much for love, but for a real connection.

Maybe you are even ready to meet it?

With love, Lana Banana.