We often hear from men that for them “sleeping with another woman” is just a mistake or a forgotten fleeting infatuation, and not at all an indicator that feelings for a partner have disappeared or even weakened. “But I still trust you!” men assure, and we, women, seem to not exist when it comes to controlling our passions.

And here is where an interesting thing happens, which is unlikely to be understood by everyone right away. Men tend to believe that physical cheating does not distance them from the woman with whom they are building a relationship. They feel that this is a simple action and often caused by an “external factor”. But is fidelity only what happens at the level of the body? For us, women, the significance of fidelity is much broader.

Now, as I grow older and become more aware of my feelings, I have realized one important thing: men and women often have completely different ideas about what cheating is. One side may consider it something inevitable and forgivable, while the other experiences literally every physical distance. Why is that? It has to do with differences in the perception of intimacy and passion. Women often associate physical closeness with emotional closeness, with relationships on a deeper level. From their point of view, cheating destroys not only physical trust, but also the chance to understand each other on more subtle, intimate levels is lost. However, to be honest, what is a mistake for a man, for a woman sometimes becomes a turning point. What you can justify in your actions or the actions of your friends, a man does not have to understand. Actions remain more important than words. Maybe it is about how we perceive the same experience? The process of knowing a friend and yourself in a relationship is not just a word, it is not a random adventure, it is a path and, albeit a small, adored moment in your life.

That is why it is important to consider perception. What is just an insignificant moment for one of us, for another will rape the inner peace.

Think for a moment... For example, what if your woman decides to go to a bar with her friends in the evening, and in the morning you do not find her at home? She does not answer calls, does not write, is silent. For example, she came to her place late at night, does not tell you who she was with and why she was absent for so long. Would you ask her where she was, or would you just try to understand? Now think: how would you react if you found out that someone else was waiting for her there? Not for a romantic dinner, not for heart-to-heart talks, but for something more... physical? Would you feel that your trust was violated, or would you continue to believe in her innocence, considering it a trifle?

Lana Banana