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It's hard to believe that turning 30+ is not the end of all rose-colored glasses, but the beginning of periods when it is so important to learn to let go and stop controlling every moment. After all, who knows me better than myself, right? Well, sometimes you decide something, make an ideal plan, write out a detailed strategy, and at some point you realize: something went wrong...

Every morning I try to get up with a positive attitude, do morning exercises and drink water with lemon. But sometimes that very day comes when lemon, instead of everything useful, only causes the body to protest. Or when you just want to take and forget about everything, wrapping yourself in a blanket with a cup of tea. Don't be too hard on yourself for giving up on plans - life happens even without a schedule.

But why is letting go so hard? 🤔
The difficulty is that we are used to controlling every detail: what happens to our health, how our loved ones live, what status we have in the social arena and... how to actually spend our time. We often get confused when we try to "do everything", and to do this we need to hold on to something and program it. It's like our internal screen with a constant question: "What will happen next?" But sometimes it is uncertainty that brings incredible relief and joy.

For example, I remember how long I worried that I could not find my ideal job. Every day I was intensively redrawing the prospects, and at some point it dawned on me: the constant pursuit of something ideal is not the path to happiness, but the path to yourself in a box of limitations. And by letting go of the process, I found a job that I had not dreamed of, but which became simply "my day", its reality seemed to go on its own.

How does it work in practice?
There have been many times in my life when I seemed to be banging my head against the wall, trying to keep everything in my perfectionist order. For example, in terms of relationships. It seems that this is the love of my life, and here it is, in a week... And at some point, taking a step back and lowering the degree of expectations, it turned out that not every attempt, even ideal in composition, leads to a happy "ending". Now, having let go of all questions regarding the uncertainty of the future, I get happiness not only from relationships, but also from just a moment of life alone - from a normal rejection of control. 🌸

The secret is simple - sometimes it is better not to try to make up for everything that is leaving, when the space is filled with "must". After all, when you leave space empty, something much more significant appears - space for something truly important. 🍀

Conclusion: Life flows without our red tape
You can expect and fight each day, but you can also learn to let it flow naturally. After all, what doesn't kill us makes us who we are - people with experience and the understanding that it's better not to fight something that can clarify itself.

So if life is too confusing, don't be afraid to trust its flow. Let go of perfectionism, planned weekends, and the need to hold everything in your hands. You can't paint a beautiful sunrise while sitting in the clouds of expectations. 🌅