To be honest, five years ago I would have started this article with how I had to overcome a crisis and make a list of goals for the coming year. But I never thought that time would pass, and life would give me a real bummer again - suddenly a day comes when nothing works out at all. It seems like you're the only one who's going to rejoice in victories, and the world starts its little mini-catastrophes. Checklists and perfectionism are forgotten, and there's complete chaos in your head!

Have you all ever found yourself in such a situation? I think so. We all, one way or another, face the fact that sometimes we are not at all ready to solve problems that we used to cope with. In your 30s+, there is a feeling that with each passing day you should be smarter, more experienced and, it would seem, closer to achieving personal victories. But what if there are “misfires” along the way, and you just can’t feel okay?

Here is one of the recent examples from my life. I experienced a real stream of small but annoying problems - it seemed like the whole month was one trouble after another. Discord at work, more unpredictable difficulties in relationships, and “small” things, like forgotten meetings, made the day completely unbearable. One day, after another night of insomnia, thinking about the disorder in my affairs and thoughts, I remembered a simple truth: it is not how you react to the world that matters, but how you process these reactions.

So - after the realization finally came, I gave myself a command to switch. And instead of getting hysterical or crying, I... just laughed! Laughter as a powerful tool helps relieve internal stress, make the brain "stop" and focus on something positive. I went to a cafe, took my favorite cup of coffee and did what is important to me at that moment - small joys.

I begin to feel: here, in my place, I definitely should be! After all, we must never forget that the "game of life" is sometimes not obsessive victories and smooth paths, but those small moments of happiness that you usually do not notice due to constant fuss and worries.

Another important lesson that I learned is the realization that I always have the right to choose: to get involved in moments of stress or learn to "leave" them behind my back. It is very important to learn to let go of small worries, which, by and large, do not matter for the overall "big plan".

Let's take, for example, a situation when I needed to distract myself from a nervous discussion at work. There were literally a lot of things to do, but I decided to spend a couple of hours reading a book or take a walk around the city. A simple step was decisive: the moment of stopping helps to restore your view of things from a different angle.

In a moment of stress, it is important to remember that life is not a disaster. What did I understand? Even in the most dead-end situations, you can find something to learn, which means that switching from what worries you to simple joys is definitely the first step to solving the mystery. Always choose to let go of emotions and postpone decisive actions, and on vacation, place emphasis. You will definitely be ready to move on. 😌🌷

Friends, so when you catch yourself feeling "tight" - do not rush. Try to abstract yourself and find small joys in little things. After all, they are what make up real happiness!

Plain