Evening, I find myself again on the couch, scrolling through my head the list of things that I did not do during the day, and feeling how a slight anxiety penetrates into the chest. Procrastination. The habit of putting off until later. Not the best ally for someone who wants to keep up with time. It happens that at night I sit on the Internet, and in the morning, it would seem, I suffer from all this senseless waste of time that does not correspond to self-discipline.

Sound familiar? Surely, many of us have at least once experienced that moment when we want to get away from solving a problem or just get into our shell of comfort, even if it is not the most productive choice.

And so, I realized that it is this "dissatisfied with myself" reaction that prevents me from moving forward. Instead of feeling sorry for myself and waging an internal struggle, I decided to reconsider the situation and take a fresh look at my habit. Isn't my desire to put things off not being stuck in a dead end, but a way to give myself "permission" to pause? 🤔

When you don't have a specific person nearby to "judge" you, without making the wrong choices, you become more sincere with yourself, and this is a wonderful step towards real change. Habits are not just made up of our decisions, they appear at a certain point in life. For example, when I need to be alone with myself and recharge "my batteries", I give myself permission to do nothing. At least for a couple of hours. As it turns out, even such a small "victory" over the inner critic helps me to relieve excess tension.

Another example is my past relationship. How often in the past years we engaged in a strange flirtation with the illusion that if we "try", maybe something good will come out. But this is not about that at all - these relationships, like old habits, were not harmful, they also taught me a lot. They taught me to let go of people and let go of what simply does not suit.

Let's figure out why all these small actions "by mistake" can actually benefit us? They show how important it is to learn to forgive ourselves and accept our humanity in moments of weakness. It happens that tricks with procrastination or the wrong choice of a partner are just missteps along the way, and they are not the point. Life is not a mistake, but a process. We should be more gentle with it.

Conclusion:

Besides the problems, the habits we consider "self-destructive" can be just guides, helping us to understand ourselves better. Learn not to blame yourself for small "mistakes." Add your share of tenderness to yourself, and when you make mistakes, flirt with them as with lessons that command you to move forward, without looking back at the herd of critics. 🌸💕

Life will not always be perfect, but if we learn a useful lesson from every small mistake, that's when the real magic happens.

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