Just imagine: you discover that in someone's eyes you no longer sparkle like that very star on the Christmas tree. So what? Well, you know that stars don't stop shining just because someone stopped noticing them. They just keep shining - for others, for themselves, for the Universe. And I decided to become that very star who doesn’t waste time complaining about the lack of attention, but simply shines for her own pleasure. So, if you suddenly realized that you no longer mean anything in someone’s life, start with three things:
Look in the mirror. No, don’t just glance at yourself. Look as if you are seeing your reflection for the first time. Smile. Say something nice to yourself. For example: “I’m absolutely fire, and they just don’t know!” Do something new. Have you always wanted to dance salsa? Or learn to skateboard? Or cook incredible cakes? Well, now is the time! You will be surprised, but the new energy will attract people into your life to whom you will mean much more than just “someone from the past”. Give yourself the right to freedom. Free yourself from all the expectations and obligations associated with this person. Because, you know, love is, first of all, about freedom. And when you are free, you become incredibly attractive. What is interesting is that as soon as you stop trying to prove your significance, you begin to be noticed in a completely different way. It is like those keys that get lost while you are looking for them, and then turn up in the most unexpected place. The same thing happens to you - as soon as you stop being “available” emotionally, they will want to bring you back into their lives. And, of course, do not forget the main thing: if you no longer mean anything in someone’s life, this does not mean that you have lost your value. You are you. Unique, bright, cheerful, amazing. And if someone does not see this, then it is only their problem, not yours. Look at it with optimism. Life is always about moving forward. Perhaps this story has ended for a new one to begin. Perhaps right now you are opening a new chapter of your book, which will be even more exciting and inspiring. And the intrigue is that the end of one story always leaves room for the beginning of another. So, if I suddenly mean nothing in someone’s life, then, you know what? It’s even interesting. It’s a chance to see where I’ll mean everything – to myself and to those who truly deserve it. And let’s be honest: who knows, maybe in the end this someone will write me a letter of apology. And me? I’ll smile and think: “What a taste for life I have!” Nadya.