Not in the sense of the one who brings chaos (although a little madness in a relationship is, you must admit, even useful), but the one who illuminates. A girl who doesn't just walk next to you in heels, but makes this world brighter - for herself, for you, for everyone around. When she enters the room - it becomes a little warmer, when she laughs - you want to laugh with her, when she walks down the street - her heels are a little higher, her step is a little softer, her posture is a little more confident. There is something hypnotizing in this, don't you agree?

And don't think that we are talking about someone who lives in beauty salons and glossy magazines. It could be a modest girl with an impressive bust, laughing at an unsuccessful attempt to bake croissants. Or a cheeky brunette who rushes off on a date right after work today, changing her sneakers for pumps right on the subway. The main thing is not appearance, but energy. Spark. Light.

I often think that men (let's be honest) slightly underestimate the influence of a woman in their lives. A real woman. She doesn't just warm your home, she warms your soul. You can come home tired, angry, irritated - but one movement, one smile from her, and the tension subsides. She is able to breathe life into you, inspire you to crazy actions, support you in the darkest moments. Family is not about cliches and a mortgage. It is about people who want to be better with each other.

Sometimes I think: what do men look for on dating sites? Beauty? Of course, it is important. Youth? Well, it is a temporary phenomenon. Inspiration? Now that is closer. A man who meets his “one” is not just a happy person. This is a person who understands that next to him is not just a wife or girlfriend, but a real muse. Someone who will make a holiday out of everyday life and will not let his soul become stale. This is exactly the kind of girl you need - bright, lively, warm. Not to be “perfect” (we all have character, and sometimes with our own cockroaches), but to walk along this road of life with you - easily, sometimes barefoot, and sometimes in those very heels.

It probably sounds a little romantic. But faith teaches us not just to live, but to look for meaning in relationships, doesn't it? To give joy, to take care of each other, to learn love and patience. To be the light.

So if you ever meet a girl who laughs a little louder than she should, who puts on 80s songs while cooking and dances in heels in puddles - take a closer look. Perhaps she is the one. Not because she's perfect. But because you'll want to be the best version of yourself around her.

Did I guess right?

Lana Banana