Assess the scale of the disaster.
Before you run for a chocolate bar called "Forgive Me" or bake a cake in the shape of a broken heart, figure out the reason for the fight.
What happened to you?
A trifle (didn't buy flowers, forgot something important, didn't respond to a message for 3.5 minutes) - here a sincere "sorry" and a portion of hugs will suffice.
More serious (had a fight over jealousy, finances, or choosing a movie for the evening) - you'll have to turn on diplomacy.
A catastrophe (insults, fundamental disagreements, "you don't understand me at all!") - here you can't get away with just a Valentine.
Advice: if you don’t remember what you had a fight about, then this is definitely not a reason to ruin the party!
Who will be the first to make peace?
The classic question: “Why should I make peace first?”
Well, if you have a contract that specifies who is responsible for apologizing, follow the document. If not, just think: is it more important to prove who is right, or to preserve love?
If you are at fault, don’t delay. It is enough to admit your mistake, say “Sorry, I was wrong” and offer to have dinner together, and not separately, demonstratively slurping.
If he is at fault, let him know that you are ready to talk, but without pressuring him. Sometimes a couple needs to cool down a little.
If both are at fault, you can arrange a “truce” in the form of a game: whoever says “I love you” first gets the right to choose the movie or restaurant for the evening. Advice: The main thing is not to use the method “I will forgive you, but I will remind you about it in 5 years at the right moment.”
And what about the gift?!
So you decided to make peace... But what to do with the gifts that you have already bought/didn’t buy?
If the quarrel has dragged on, but there is a chance for peace, you can leave the gift and say: “I hope we will celebrate this day together.”
If reconciliation happened at the last moment, you can give a card with the words: “I was going to buy you the best gift, but the quarrel threw me off track so much that I spent the money on chocolate... which is now ours!” If the holiday is cancelled - well... You can always eat this chocolate alone, arranging an evening of self-love.
Advice: The most valuable gift is a good mood. Although a box of chocolates also helps!
Final advice: do not turn Valentine's Day into drama.
The holiday is an occasion to tell each other how dear you are to each other, and not an occasion to measure grievances. So make peace, love, hug and don't forget that the most important thing is not the day itself, but the people who make it special!
With love and no hard feelings, Marina.