But, looking back, I realized that mistakes are part of the path. And although there is no universal formula for ideal relationships, I would like to share with you what, in my opinion, is really important to consider when meeting, so as not to make a mistake in choosing a partner.

1. Coincidence of values ​​and goals of life

One of the most important factors that I always take into account when meeting is the presence of similar values ​​and life goals. We can be fascinated by appearance or fascinating conversations, but if our priorities are radically different, relations are unlikely to be successful in the long run.

For example, if family and children are important to me, and for him a career and independence, then this can become a source of constant disagreement. Or, if I dream of traveling and adventure, and my partner prefers to sit at home, we risk not finding common topics for communication.

2. Honesty and openness

Openness and honesty are another key qualities that I always appreciate in a potential partner. And although everything can be perfect at the first stages of acquaintance, it is important that a person is ready to openly discuss his feelings, thoughts and experiences.

Many relationships collapse precisely because of the lack of communication, lack of core and hidden motives. When someone hides their intentions or is not honest about important life issues (for example, finance, future plans), this can cause big problems in the future.

3. Respect for personal borders

When I was just starting to get acquainted with people, I did not always pay attention to this aspect, but now I understand that the respect of personal borders is one of the most important factors of healthy relationships. This applies to both physical and emotional space. All people are different, and what seems normal alone can be completely unacceptable to the other.

It is important that the partner respect your interests, needs and does not violate your boundaries, whether in relations, at work or in personal hobbies. Mutual respect is the basis of any harmonious relationship.

4. How a person solves conflicts

We are all faced with difficult situations and conflicts in relations. And at this stage it is very important how a person decides disputes and disagreements. For example, I always try to observe how my potential partner reacts to stressful situations.

If he is prone to aggression, manipulation or avoiding conversations, this is a red flag. It is important that in difficult moments both partners can calmly listen to each other, agree and find a compromise.

5. Emotional maturity

The emotional maturity of a partner is perhaps one of the criteria that I began to pay attention to later. This is not about the lack of emotions, but about the ability to manage them. I have long realized that it is important not how a person reacts to joyful moments, but how he copes with difficult situations.

An emotionally mature partner knows how to take responsibility for his actions, cope with disappointments and not tolerate his experiences to others. He does not expect that others will be responsible for his happiness, and is ready to work on himself.

6. A sense of humor and the ability to laugh together

Without laughter, life loses its brightness. And if there is no sense of humor in the relationship, then they can become boring and monotonous. I am not saying that the partner should be a comedian, but the opportunity to laugh together, the ease of communication is what is very important to me.

A sense of humor helps not only in everyday life, but also in difficult times. When you can joke and relieve stress, relationships become more harmonious.

7. How he or she relates to other people

Watching how a person relates to other people, you can learn a lot. How does he communicate with friends, colleagues, parents? This aspect shows what kind of person he is in ordinary life.

I noticed that respect and kindness to others are not only a feature of a good partner, but also the key to strong relations. If a person respects others, this means that he is ready to show this attitude towards you.

8. Compatibility in intimate life

Although this seems a little personal, I cannot but note the importance of this aspect in a relationship. Physical and emotional compatibility in an intimate life is an important factor that affects the strength of the pair. However, this is not only about physical preferences, but also about mutual respect, the desire to give pleasure to the partner and openness in this matter.