Who is she - that one woman?
First love. Often, it is the first love that sets the tone for all subsequent relationships. Its light can warm for many years or, on the contrary, be a ghost that is difficult to part with.
A woman who understood. Sometimes fate brings together those who are able to look into the very depths of the soul. To understand without words, to support in the darkest times.
Muse. It is not always about love. Perhaps she gave impetus to changes, inspired creativity or new beginnings.
Mother. For many men, it is the mother who remains the standard of love, care and tenderness. This is the first and strongest connection in his life.
Why are the others just shadows?
Search for similar traits. Consciously or unconsciously, a man can look for something in other women that resembles the one. Her voice, the way she laughs, her habits.
Comparison. Each new meeting seems to pass through the prism of the past. "But she wouldn't say that", "Her hugs were warmer".
Unconscious repetition of the scenario. If things didn't work out with "the one", a man can try to recreate similar relationships over and over again, but with other people.
What to do if you feel like a shadow?
Understand the truth. If you feel that your man is living in the past, it is important to admit it honestly.
Talk openly. Perhaps he doesn't even realize that the shadows of the past are preventing him from building a future.
Don't agree to the role of a substitute. You are a unique person, not a copy of someone else's past.
Assess your feelings. Are you satisfied with such a relationship? Do they bring joy or only pain?
Life does not stand still. The shadows of the past can be strong, but every day gives a chance for new light. If there is a man in your life who still lives in the past, it is important to understand: can you become for him not another shadow, but a new chapter in his life. After all, true love is not about shadows. It is about light. MARIA.