Why does marriage turn into a war?
The struggle for leadership. When everyone wants to be the main one, the decision maker, an eternal confrontation begins in the relationship.
Unfulfilled expectations. The fairy tale of "lived happily ever after" is often shattered by everyday life, routine and mismatched expectations.
Fear of losing yourself. When it seems that your partner is limiting your freedom, a natural desire to "win back" your personal space arises.
Lack of respect. Where there is no respect, manipulation, reproaches and a hidden struggle for control begin.
How does "war" manifest itself in marriage?
Emotional attacks. Barbs, sarcasm, criticism - weapons with which partners hurt each other.
Silent defense. Ignoring, "cold war", withdrawal.
Struggle for resources. Money, time, attention - everything becomes a subject of dispute.
Manipulation of children. The heaviest "caliber" is when children become hostages of parental conflict.
What does war lead to in relationships?
Emotional exhaustion. Constant struggle exhausts, making life look like a battlefield.
Destruction of trust. After many "battles", returning to harmony becomes almost impossible.
Escape to freedom. Sometimes it seems that divorce is a victory, liberation from oppression. But it is important to understand that freedom does not always bring happiness, especially if too high a price is paid for it.
Is it possible to avoid war in marriage?
Learn to negotiate. Negotiations are better than battles. Even if you have to seek a compromise, it is more beneficial than endless conflicts.
Don't be afraid to speak openly. Honest conversations without accusations are an opportunity to hear each other.
Share responsibility. Marriage is not about who wins, but about how to go through the journey together, maintaining respect and love.
Maintain personal space. Being together does not mean dissolving in each other. Everyone has the right to their own interests, time and dreams.
Marriage without war: utopia or reality?
Ideal relationships are a myth. Even the most harmonious couples have arguments and misunderstandings. But if you quarrel every time until you "win", then sooner or later one of the partners will remain defeated.
Freedom in marriage is possible, but it is achieved not through victory over the other, but through acceptance and respect for each other.
Marriage should not be a battlefield where the winner gets freedom, and the loser gets pain and disappointment. True freedom in a relationship is when both partners feel free, happy and respected. If the war has already begun, perhaps it is worth thinking: what is more important - to win or to preserve what you once chose each other for? Marina.