Friends are not always "friends"
It sounds harsh, but let's be honest, anything can happen in life. One of your friends may not be so different when he "suddenly" appears in line, and in exchange for a couple of minutes of the situation, fame will start shaking you with information that would be safer in your diary, and not in your head. A friend who has listened to all your problems may, because of your problems, start new experimental studies with someone who would be happy to use them against you. And here comes the serious question: should you tell your friend everything that is on your heart?
A secret is not only a secret, but also protection.
Now let's look at it from the other side. When you trust a person with information that even your enemies should not know, you open a window into your life, where your weaknesses, competitors and inner secrets can hide. And if this information does not fall into my hands, the consequences can be unpleasant.
Therefore, keep yourself in mind: you can be sincere and open, but always choose what of this can be revealed. Otherwise, you risk getting into a situation where a friend becomes a "friend" until you decide to "remind" you of something at the most inappropriate moment.
Secrets are best kept in a good safe.
Why talk about the fact that this can be used against you? Why reveal your cards to everyone else when you can just keep a few personal boundaries? Even if you consider someone the most loyal friend in the world, it is always important to remember that our world is a chessboard, and someone can make a move that you do not expect.
Friendship without secrets is not friendship, but collegiality.
I was once told that true friendship is when you can tell a friend everything and not be afraid that he will ever use it against you. But, to be honest, I would almost change this phrase. Friendship should be based on trust, but without excess information. There are times when it is better to keep for yourself what is not worth bringing to someone else's analysis. Let a friend be your friend, but with a certain amount of reasonable distance. The enemy can be anywhere, but friends can make mistakes too. Perhaps enemies are not always my people with whom we do not get along. Sometimes they turn out to be those who just know how to properly trip up. And if you accidentally share something that "friends" shouldn't hear, it can easily work against you.
So, friends, the phrase "Don't tell your friend what your enemy shouldn't" is not a call for paranoia or isolation, but just a reminder that important things are best given only to the closest ones, who will definitely not betray. Everything else is better kept under lock and key. Nadya.