1. Find Ways to Support Each Other
There may not be many, but your partner likely has a few emotional triggers that always work. Figure out what they need to hear from you in difficult moments. What kind of support do they expect?

Likewise, let your partner know what you need from them. Maybe you want someone to take your side when you’re upset. Or perhaps your partner, in moments of stress, prefers to withdraw and process things alone. In that case, the best support you can offer is to give them space.

Some people just need a hug or a gentle touch. Others find comfort in kind words and reassurance. Support can take many forms, often in ways you wouldn’t expect. The key is to understand what works for your relationship and to respect each other’s needs.

Give feedback and ask for it in return. Talk to each other about your feelings, thoughts, and expectations. No one can read minds. You can’t always predict what will upset your partner or what kind of reaction they need from you. Bottling up resentment only makes things worse, and your partner may not even realize what they did wrong.

2. Be Open to Change
Over time, your interests, values, and preferences may shift. Be ready to accept your partner as they grow and change. Life experiences—especially difficult ones—can shape us and affect our relationships. It’s important to stay in tune with what your partner expects from you and what they absolutely don’t want to hear or experience.

3. Avoid Empty Words
When someone is seeking comfort or support, phrases like “Everything will be fine” often don’t help. They can feel like meaningless platitudes rather than genuine reassurance. From your partner’s perspective, this might come across as indifference.

If you don’t know what to say, a hug, a cup of tea, or a simple distraction from their worries can be much more meaningful. 💖