Does love have a logic? It would seem that we should look for warmth, care, confidence in a partner. But no. In reality, for some reason we are drawn to a place where it is difficult, where it hurts, where there is not a drop of predictability.

Psychologists say that our childhood scripts are to blame. Maybe we lacked parental love as children, and now we're looking for a similar pattern - trying to win the love of someone who doesn't give it to us for nothing. Maybe we're used to suffering and don't believe that love can be easy.

But you know, sometimes it's much simpler than that. “Wrong” people just know how to keep us in suspense. They don't give us confidence, but they give us drive. They don't promise anything, but every move they make is a surprise. They're difficult, but never boring. And we are afraid that if we choose the “right” person, it will suddenly become too calm, too predictable.

But what if true love is not a storm, not endless worries and not fear of loss? What if love is a safe haven where you are accepted for who you are, where you can be vulnerable without fear of judgment?

Perhaps one important question to ask yourself is, “Do I love because I feel good with this person? Or because I am hurting without him or her?” The answer to that question makes a lot of difference.

Do you think you can teach yourself to choose calmness and reliability over passion and struggle? Or will your heart always be drawn to “bad boys” and “femme fatales”? Share your opinion! 💭