When flaws become features. When we love, all the little things acquire a special meaning. Tousled hair in the morning, slightly uneven laughter or forgetfulness - all this becomes part of the unique image of a loved one. We accept him as he is, and do not even try to correct anything. This is because true love is built on acceptance. It does not require perfection. Moreover, imperfections add depth and humanity. We love not an ideal picture, but a living person with all his facets.
Why does everything irritate in an unloved one?
On the other hand, when feelings fade or were never there, even positive qualities can seem empty. Suddenly generosity turns into extravagance, confidence into self-confidence, and caring begins to feel like obsession. This happens because there is internal resistance hidden behind the lack of love. We do not want to accept this person, their energy seems alien. And instead of seeing the good in them, we subconsciously seek confirmation of our negative feelings.
How to understand the difference? Answer yourself honestly: How do you feel around this person? Calm or tense?
Pay attention to the little things: Is what irritates you a real problem or just an excuse?
Listen to your heart: Do you want to spend time with them or do you always look for an excuse to avoid communication?
What to do if irritation takes over?
Understand yourself. Maybe the problem is not in your partner, but in your inner state?
Talk. Sometimes an honest conversation helps relieve tension. Don't force yourself. If love is gone or never happened, it's important to acknowledge it and not waste energy trying to change what can't be changed.
Love is acceptance. If you like even the shortcomings of a person, this is a sure sign of true feelings. In such relationships, you don't need to prove or change anything. And if irritation becomes a constant background, perhaps it's time to think about whether your heart is on the right path.
Love with your heart, not your mind. The heart will always tell you where the real feelings are and where there is just an illusion. Marina.