Many of them just want to feel needed
When you write to them or sincerely answer them, they blossom. Their self-esteem increases. But often that's all they need — not an acquaintance, not a relationship, but just confirmation that they are still "in the game". They feel good when they like them. And then — they run away for a new dose of attention.
Some live in an imaginary world
There is a type of men who fall in love with their own fantasy. They idealize you based on a couple of photos and a few messages. And when they see that you are a real person, with moods, thoughts, boundaries — they disappear. Because you are no longer "their dream", but just a woman.
There are those who themselves do not know what they want
They go to a dating site not because they are ready for a relationship. But because they are bored. Or something hurts inside. Or they just want to talk. And as soon as the conversation goes deeper, panic sets in. And they run away. Maybe not out of malice - they are simply not ready for responsibility or openness.
Someone is simply looking for "emotional entertainment"
It's like watching a movie. If you write to them "I can already imagine us walking around Paris together" - they have fun, they are romantic. But it's a game, nothing more. And after the movie - the lights in the hall go out, and the viewer leaves. And you still sit there with the question: *wasn't it all real?..*

And, of course, the banal options: wife, another, work, wife again :)
Unfortunately, there is also a category that conducts several parallel conversations, looking for something "better", or is simply testing the ground in case their relationship falls apart in real life. And when you ask a direct question or show real interest - they simply "go into the fog".
And the conclusion?
As sad as it may sound, **not everyone who promises wants to fulfill**. Many people just love the idea of ​​love, not ready for a real meeting. But this is not about you. This is about them.
And most importantly — **it's not your fault** if someone disappears. You are not the one who "scares away", "didn't make it", "didn't hold back". You just met someone who doesn't know where he is going.
Maybe this is the magic of online dating: through dozens of ghosts, one day the real one will break through.
In the meantime — keep your level, don't lose yourself, and remember: promises are not actions.