A hot massage is when:the oil is heated just enough to burn, but not to scorch;
the palms slide not over the muscles, but over the hidden patterns of tension;
the breathing slows down, and you stop understanding where his body ends and yours begins.

Why is this not just a "back warm-up"?
Because here everything is decided by trust. You can:
close your eyes and surrender to the movement of the hands, which seem to read you;
forget about shame - after all, in the semi-darkness, under the whisper of aromatic oils, everything is allowed;
realize that the line between "therapeutic" and "sinful" was invented by those who are afraid of pleasure.
If it's a partner massage, it's a confession without words
Only:
slow circles on the lower back, which not accidentally go lower;
drops of heated oil flowing down where other people's hands can't reach;
his suddenly interrupted breathing when your fingers find that very spot...
The main rule? Forbid rushing
Ideal if:
time loses its meaning;
silence becomes louder than moans;
and after you can't remember where the massage ended and something more began.
You've already guessed that a real hot massage never ends on the couch, right? 😉