Let's try to figure it out: is jealousy an enemy or a helper of relationships?
🔍 What is jealousy?

Jealousy is an emotional reaction to the threat of losing something valuable. Most often, a partner and attention from him.
This can be:

fear that a loved one will be taken away

a feeling that we are being compared

anxiety due to one's own insecurity

Important: jealousy is not a sign of love. It is rather a signal of fear and vulnerability.
🧠 What does psychology say?

Jealousy is a complex feeling that combines:

fear of rejection

low self-esteem

control

past trauma (for example, cheating in the past)

In moderation, it can show that we care about our partner. But if jealousy becomes obsessive, it is no longer about love, but about internal wounds.
🛠 When can jealousy be a “helper”?

✅ As a way to talk about something important
If a person can calmly say:
“I’m a little jealous because I feel that there is less warmth between us,”
- this can be a reason to get closer.

✅ As an indicator of boundaries
Sometimes jealousy shows that there is a lack of clarity in the relationship: who we are to each other, what we expect, where is the “norm” and where it is already alarming.

✅ As a chance to understand yourself
Jealousy is about us. If we know how to ask ourselves questions:
“Why am I so afraid? What triggers me?” — this is already a path to personal growth.
🚨 When does jealousy destroy?

❌ Constant control: checking your phone, social networks
❌ Accusations without reason
❌ Manipulation: “If you go without me, it means you don’t love me”
❌ Prohibitions: who to be friends with, how to dress, where to go

This is already unhealthy jealousy, which is based on mistrust and self-doubt.

Such jealousy can kill trust, create a feeling that your partner is in a cage. This means that sooner or later one of you will want to break out.
❤️ How to deal with jealousy?

Acknowledge the feeling
Do not suppress, do not deny. Just honestly tell yourself: “Yes, I am jealous.”

Figure out — because of what
Are these real reasons or internal fears?

Talk to your partner
Not in an accusatory tone, but from a position of vulnerability:
"It is important for me to feel needed..."

Strengthen yourself, not destroy others
Increase your self-esteem, develop yourself, do what you love.

Set healthy boundaries
Freedom and respect are the basis of mature relationships.

📌 Summary

Jealousy is neither an enemy nor a friend.
It is just an emotion. It can become the key to an honest dialogue, or it can be a weapon if used without awareness.

Strong relationships are built on trust, not on the fear of loss.
And if you know how to discuss jealousy, it is not weakness, but maturity. 💬