1. Love is an instant feeling that changes everything

Remember how in films when the heroes first meet, literally sparks fly between them? In their views - the whole universe, and chemistry is felt at every step. On the screen, it looks very exciting and, of course, I really want to believe that love is something magical that happens literally at a glance.

But in practice, everything is not so simple. Love is not an instant fireworks, but rather a process that develops over time. Yes, at first there may be a strong attraction and chemistry, but in order for love to strengthen and become real, time, trust and joint efforts are needed. Good relations are not only passion and extravaganza, but also care, understanding, compromises.

2. True love does not require work

I also often heard this myth: "If this is true love, then everything should happen by itself, without effort." Of course, you can spend an idealized moment when feelings "flare up" by themselves. But in reality, in order to maintain a good relationship, you need to make efforts. People are changing, there are difficult moments, life circumstances also do not stand still. And love requires care - like a garden that needs to be watered so that it blooms.

Do not think that if everything is perfect in the relationship, then this means not “true love”. This is just part of the path, and true love will manifest itself precisely in how the couple copes with difficulties and overcomes problems.

3. Jealousy is a sign of true love

This myth is perhaps one of the most common. Often we see on the screen how the heroes are jealous of each other, at some point show their uncertainty, and then, thanks to these emotions, the relationship becomes even stronger. We all believe that jealousy is a way to show our love and care.

In fact, jealousy is rather a sign of uncertainty than love. In healthy relationships, trust is important. When you are confident in your partner, you do not need to control it every step. Jealousy can destroy relationships if it goes beyond normal. Yes, to be a little preoccupied sometimes normal, but you must always remember about the boundaries. Love is primarily trust and freedom.

4. "Fate" always reduces us with those who are intended for us

Many romantic films are built on the fact that two people were "intended" for each other, and their relationship is not an accident. When the heroes meet, their fates are intertwined, and they live happily in the end.

In real life, of course, no one guarantees us "intended" love. Of course, a meeting with a person who wants to be, may seem fateful, but in fact, in order for relations to become stable and happy, it is necessary to work on them. We ourselves form our relations, and do not rely on luck or fate.

5. We will always be happy if we will be with each other

The idea that love always brings happiness is also quite naive. There are different stages in the relationship: passion, calm, problems. There are days when we are happy together, but when it is difficult for us. Do not believe in idealistic ideas that if we are together with someone, we will always be happy. In real life, happiness is not a constant state, but a wave -like process that depends on many factors.

While I was thinking about myths about love, it occurred to me that perhaps the most important mistake is to expect from the relationship that we are shown in films. Real love is a much deeper and more multi -layer thing. This is not only passion and romance, but also compromises, efforts, tolerance, trust and understanding. Love is not a goal, but a path that is worth going with someone with whom you are really comfortable.