Let's figure it out.

🧠 The psychology of unavailability: what is the essence?

1. The "reward after effort" effect
Our brain is designed like this: the more difficult it is to get a reward, the more valuable it seems. An unavailable person becomes a "prize", and every little thing on their part is perceived as a great achievement.

2. We love to fantasize
When a person does not open up completely, we have room for imagination. We "think up" their feelings, qualities, intentions. And we fall in love - not with a person, but with an image created in our head.

3. Internal traumas and scenarios
Sometimes the craving for the unavailable is a reflection of childhood experience. For example, if we had to earn our parents' love, we unconsciously look for those who repeat this scenario. Only now we hope to "love" ourselves through them.

4. Fear of intimacy
Paradoxically, but it's a fact: people who are afraid of real emotional intimacy often choose the unavailable. This way they can fall in love without risking being truly vulnerable.

💔 Why is this dangerous?
Such love often turns into waiting, suffering, a race for attention. It exhausts, devalues ​​itself and closes the path to real, healthy intimacy.

❤️ How to free yourself from the craving for the unavailable?

1. Recognize what is happening
Answer yourself honestly: is this person really next to you? Or are you in an illusion, hoping for "someday"?

2. Explore the root
What exactly hooks you? Is it about him or about your need to be noticed, recognized?

3. Focus on those who are open
Full-fledged relationships are built with those who choose you without games. It is no less passionate - just more real.

4. Work with self-esteem
When you know your value - you do not run after someone who runs away. You choose someone who walks next to you.

Conclusion: craving for the unavailable is not a sentence, but an invitation to look inside yourself.
Sometimes it shows where we are still looking for love that we have not received. And sometimes - it just reminds that we are worthy of being with someone who is truly close.