You start thinking not about yourself, but about him.

You adjust, remain silent, agree, even when you want to say "no".

You start living his life instead of your own.

And now you no longer feel where you are and where he is.

This is called dissolving in another. But love should not deprive you of yourself.

Let's figure out how to preserve yourself, even when you love with all your soul.

💔 Why do we dissolve in a partner?

1. Fear of losing
Sometimes we are so afraid of being alone that we are ready to adjust, just to "hold on". But love built on fear turns into dependence.

2. Low self-esteem
When you don't believe in your worth, you start "earning" love. Proving, pleasing, changing - just to be needed.

3. The image of the "perfect couple"
Society imposes: true love is "one whole". But the truth is that true intimacy is only possible between two separate individuals.

🌿 How to preserve yourself in a relationship?

1. Remember: you are not half, you are whole
You do not need "addition". You have your own personality, dreams, desires. Relationships are about "together", but not about "instead".

2. Don't sacrifice what is important
If you give up friends, hobbies, goals - to be close to him, you risk losing your support.
A loving partner respects your freedom, and does not demand that you give it up.

3. Say "I" as often as "we"
In a healthy relationship, there is room for both the general and the personal. You may have different interests, opinions, and pace. And that's okay.

4. Stay in touch with yourself
Ask yourself questions: "What do I want?", "Where are my boundaries?", "Am I comfortable with this?"
True love does not erase these answers, but on the contrary, helps to find them.

❤️ True love is not about losing yourself. It is about growth.
When you love yourself and another, it is a union in which everyone remains themselves.
And if you feel like you are dissolving, it is not about love. It is about fear, dependence, distortion.