The answer that many do not like: both.
But the answer does not end there. After all, life is rarely perfectly balanced, and at different periods, relationships require different levels of effort from each. It happens that one is going through a difficult period in life - and then the second takes on a greater emotional burden. It happens the other way around. The main thing is not to measure relationships by the principle "I did more, and you did less." This is the path to resentment and claims.

A man - an initiator, a protector, a leader?
Traditionally, a man is expected to be proactive, stable, confident. He should be a support, care, and be able to solve problems. But in the modern world, these expectations have become two-sided. A woman can also be strong, supportive and caring. This is not a competition of who is stronger - this is a partnership.

A woman - a keeper, an inspirer, an emotional center?
Yes, a woman often takes on the role of the one who "feels" the relationship. Who notices earlier that something is wrong. Who gently leads to a conversation. Who subtly regulates the atmosphere. But this does not mean that she should always "save" the relationship. And even more so - tolerate if the only response is silence or indifference.

Real intimacy is an investment from both sides
Relationships are not built by the efforts of one. This is not a marathon, where one runs, and the other rides a bike next to. This is a joint path, where both sometimes get tired, both need support, both take steps towards each other.

But there is one "but": you should only invest where you are met. Because if one constantly gives, and the other only takes - this is no longer a relationship, but a one-sided agreement for survival.

Conclusion: It doesn't matter if you are a man or a woman - if you want a real connection, you will have to work. But not more than the other. Exactly as much as it takes for it to be for both of you. With love, with respect, with the desire to be not just close, but together.