I have heard to many stories of lack of sexual performance of men contributing to termination of a relationship. To prevent this failure I suggest women use a more careful screening of candidates for marriage. Obviously sex is a significant part of the relationship between a man and a woman. I suggest a test a woman needs to perform before accepting a man to be her husband is “Is he a good lover?” That is every time during each sexual session and he get his pleasure does he have the skill and is he willing to spend the time and effort necessary to make sure his wife or you also get your pleasure.
For men you need to realize that if you do not please her often enough you will not keep her. I have several stores of women who have suffer with the problem of not having orgasms with their husbands for many years. In some cases the woman were convinced the problem was not caused by lack of skill of their husband but by some defect within themselves. But regardless of what head games the husband plays eventually she becomes wise and the marriage ends.
To me there are two aspect to sex. Being able to shut down your intellect and let your animal out to play. The other using your intellect to learn the thing you need to know in order to give your partner pleasure. This is definitely a situation in which the more you give, the more you get. So for a man just be able to stick it in and do your thing is not sufficient. For both men and women need to know the location of clitoris and G-spot. The men need to know how to stimulate them and the women need to know this in order to be able to test to determine if a man knows enough to be an adequate lover. I am saying that if a man does not know enough basic fact then it is not possible for him to be an adequate lover. This mean that a woman does not have to have sex with every man she is considering as a husband. She can simple ask something like, “On a woman, where is the location of the G-spot and how is it stimulated?” If he know the answer, keep asking question. If he passes this part only then may it be necessary to give him a final exam.
There are two areas that need to be learned to make a relationship work. There is the physical or sexual aspect of the relationship and there is the emotional or psychological aspect of the relationship. It takes effort to learn what is necessary in both areas. By a woman test a man’s sexual knowledge she is actually test to determine if he is will to put in the effort to learn what he need to know to make both aspects of the relationship work. So a woman’s attitude should be if he does not pass the sexual knowledge test he should be reject for two reasons: 1) inability to get the job done in the bedroom. 2) lack of willingness to learn enough to make the emotional or psychological part of the relationship work.