Chasing is a sign of need
When a person tries too hard to attract someone's love, this is often perceived as dependence or even despair. In relationships where one constantly proves his or her worth, an imbalance arises: one runs, the other runs away. A persistent attempt to achieve love can be a turn-off precisely because it deprives the other person of freedom of choice. Love is not a deal or a trophy to be hunted. It is a process of mutual attraction, not one-sided pressure.
Detachment attracts
Sometimes, on the contrary, when a person is focused on himself, his goals, lives a full life and does not make a cult out of love - it attracts. Such independence and self-sufficiency arouses interest. We are drawn to those who do not need us to feel their own value. This is the paradox: when you stop chasing love, it finds you itself.
Why does it work?
Self-sufficiency looks attractive.
Ease and lack of pressure create comfort.
The naturalness of feelings is born without coercion.
How to apply this in life?
Do not look for love - look for yourself. The closer you are to your true self, the closer will be the one who appreciates it.
Let go of control. Real attraction does not arise on command.
Be honest with yourself. You do not have to deserve love - you deserve it now.
Love is not a goal to which you need to rush with all your might. It's a meeting that happens when you're going your own way and not expecting a miracle - and suddenly it happens. Sometimes, for love to come, it's enough to stop looking for it.