If you often fall in love, but the relationship quickly burns out, and you again look for a new “spark” - perhaps you are not in love with the person. You are in love with falling in love. Or rather, you are addicted to the hormones that it triggers.

💡 What is dopamine addiction?
Dopamine is the hormone of pleasure and anticipation. It is responsible for the very euphoria that we feel in the first stages of falling in love. And it is he who makes us hooked on these sensations.

Like any addiction, dopamine works according to the scheme: stimulus → high → habituation → need to increase the dose. Only in this case, the stimulus is a new object of love.

📌 Signs that you are “hooked” on dopamine:
You miss not the person, but the sensations - you miss emotions, correspondence, surges, but not a real connection.

You quickly get bored in a stable relationship - as soon as the hormonal surge goes away, interest fades.

You fall in love too easily and often - feelings appear quickly, almost without reason.

You need a romantic drama to “feel” - without emotions and passion, it seems that this is not love.

You confuse falling in love with real intimacy - you take bright emotions for a deep feeling.

🧠 Why does this happen?
A neural pathway “falling in love = reward” is formed in the brain.

Behavior becomes compulsive: you need to fall in love again to feel “alive”.

Such patterns are often formed in childhood — when love was associated with its lack, the struggle for attention, drama.

🧘 What to do if you recognized yourself?
Give yourself a break from romances
Not for the sake of punishment, but to learn to hear yourself without hormonal noise.

Develop stable sources of joy
Hobbies, sports, creativity, communication without flirting — they also give dopamine, but in a healthier way.

Understand your feelings
Why do you need constant "falling in love"? What are you really afraid of?

Look for depth, not flashes
Learn to build emotional intimacy — slowly, honestly, without masks and performances.

Falling in love is wonderful. But when you fall in love every time to feel needed, beautiful, alive — this is no longer about love. This is about an inner emptiness that cannot be filled with external flashes.

Love not only the falling in love itself, but also the silence after it. Because only in this silence is something real born.