1. Secret as an element of attraction

Secret and mystery always attracted attention. People with some lack of non -performance are more often more interesting. This is quite natural - a person is by nature curious, and the less information about us is revealed, the stronger the desire to learn more arises. This can be compared with literary characters: secret and multilayer heroes often turn out to be the most memorable and attractive.

In a relationship, this element of mystery can play a role. When you do not reveal all the secrets at once, this can create additional interest in the partner and increase the tension. Often such mystery first helps to revive relationships and warm up the spark. Several "unsolved" features in a partner can always be the moment that will create an atmosphere of intrigue.

2. Intrigue as a test of trust

Nevertheless, an important point is how long you can keep a partner in ignorance. If you do not care that your partner feels safe, and you deliberately hide part of yourself, creating too many mysteries, this can lead to distrust and even jealousy. For a healthy relationship, openness and trust are necessary. If the excessive intrigue is delayed, it turns from the game into manipulation, and this can lead to the destruction of the connection.

Intrigues can be pleasant when their boundaries are clear. But if there are too many of them, it can begin to create stress and even deception. When one partner hides some important moments or frankly deceiving, this is no longer a mystery, but a problem. It is important to remember that this intrigue should be caused by a healthy interest, and not the desire to control another person.

3. Harmony between openness and secret

The mystery and intrigues in the relationship should not be an end in itself. It's all about the balance. It is important to maintain the interest and involvement of the partner, but also do not forget about honesty and sincerity. Too many secrets can lead to the fact that the partner will feel uncertain or will build guesses on the basis of incompetence, which can undermine trust.

Instead of focusing on creating a "mysterious image", it is worth building relationships on honesty, openness and, of course, respect for the feelings of a partner. This does not mean that absolutely everything needs to be disclosed, but it is important to understand where the line between mystery and manipulation passes.

4. When can intrigues be harmful?

There are situations when attempts to be mysterious or mysterious can adversely affect relationships. If intrigues begin to touch important aspects, for example, your commitment in relationships or important decisions related to a joint future, this may cause alarm with the partner. This destroys basic trust and brings an atmosphere of uncertainty into the relationship.

It is also worth avoiding to maintain intrigue in matters of honesty, for example, to hide information about your past or intentions. This always raises doubts, and in the end, the partner can feel deceived, even if your intentions were sincere.

Healthy mystery is art

Intrigues and secrets can add interest and severity to relationships if they are used in moderate doses. The mystery can be both a game or a way to maintain interest at a certain stage of the relationship. But it is important to remember that this should always be with respect for the feelings of a partner and within the framework of a trusting relationship.