1. Hobbies - an enemy or ally of relations?

In fact, enthusiasm for something is a quality for which they often fall in love. A passion for your favorite business makes a person interesting, alive, inspiring. However, the problem begins when the balance is disturbed, and the partner feels “on the second roles” compared to the guitar, motorcycle or collection of brands.

It is important to understand: the hobby in itself does not destroy the relationship. They are destroyed by lack of attention, inattention to the feelings of a partner and a refusal to share time and emotions.

2. Why do people run away to their hobbies

Sometimes an excessive hobby for a hobby is a way to avoid reality. Creativity or sport becomes a comfort zone, where a person feels successful, accepted, understandable. And relationships, especially in moments of difficulties, may seem difficult and requiring efforts.

If one of the partners is “lost” in its world, you should think: is the problem in a hobby? Or is there a fear of intimacy, unresolved conflicts, disappointment?

3. How to maintain a relationship if a hobby is in the first place

The first step is a frank conversation. Without reproaches and accusations. Sincerely say about your feelings: that you miss, feel a lack of warmth or participation.

The second step is to try to build a partner’s passion for your life together. Perhaps it is worth trying to become interested in his hobby, to share at least part of this world. Sometimes even a minimum participation - a joint trip to the exhibition, training or concert - helps to bring each other closer.

The third step is to find a compromise. No one should completely abandon their hobbies for the sake of another. But relationships cannot exist on the bare enthusiasm of one person. It is important to find a balance: time for yourself, time for a partner, time for joint hobbies.

4. And if nothing changes?

It also happens that the passion for a hobby really becomes stronger than love. And then I have to honestly answer my painful question: do I want to be on the second roles all my life? Is I ready to accept a partner as he is, without expectations that one day his priorities will change?

Sometimes the best way out is not a struggle for attention, but respectful parting. Not because of resentment, but because of self-love and understanding of their needs.

5. A hobby can combine if you look at it correctly

Ideally, hobbies should not disconnect people, but give each space for personal growth. In healthy relations, partners inspire each other, support in aspirations and share joys. If each of you develops, if everyone is happy in itself, together you become even stronger.

Therefore, before accusing the hobby of cooling feelings, you should look deeper: have you lost your own interest in each other? Maybe you should re -open each other - how once did you discover your passions?

Balance is possible

Passion for a hobby is not a sentence for a relationship. It all depends on how both partners are ready to hear, understand and respect each other. Love is also a kind of creativity. And the ability to enter hobbies into a common picture of life is a real art that should be mastered for the sake of happiness together.