I'm an ordinary woman who, like many others, sits in dating apps, opens direct messages on social networks and... most often sighs 😒, closing yet another "Hi, how are you?".
No, I'm not a snob 🙅‍♀️. It's just that, like any other woman, I don't want to be just another "mailing list" on your list ✉️. I want to feel that you're writing to me, and not just "catching a chance" 🎯.
So let's be honest - I'll tell you how to start a conversation so you don't end up in the "spam" folder 🗑️ in our heads. Or maybe you'll even hit the heart ❤️.

1. A regular "Hello" is like an empty envelope 📭
Starting with "Hello" is safe, but too neutral 😐. It's like coming to a party, nodding from afar and retreating to the corner. We don't know what to say. And if this is the 34th "Hello" of the day, the chances are slim.
What's better: Add context 🧠. For example: - "Hello! Saw your photo with a book - also read "1984", tough stuff, right?" 📚 - "Were you at the concert in St. Petersburg? I was there too, how did you like the sound?" 🎶

2. Compliments are good, if not to the point 💬💥
The phrase “You are beautiful” is nice, but it sounds like you copied it 10 times and pasted it to different girls 🤖. And if you don’t add anything individual to it, it loses its meaning.
What works: - “Your laugh is incredibly sincere in the last photo - it really lifted my spirits” 😊 - “You have a great style. Do you choose your looks yourself, or do you have a fashion consultant?” 👗✨

3. Humor - yes, but not jokes from Odnoklassniki 🙈
Humor is a bridge 🌉. If you know how to joke and do it appropriately - a huge plus. But not hackneyed jokes like “If you were a cucumber, I would pickle you” 🥒🙃.
How to approach it wisely: - Play on the situation: "Judging by your smile, you could be a diplomat at the UN. Or just great at convincing bartenders to pour you a generous drink" 🍸😉

4. Questions are the key to dialogue 🔑
The best way to arouse interest is not to tell, but to ask 🤔. But not formally, but in essence. Let it feel like you are really curious.
Instead of: - "What are your hobbies?" Try: - "Are you seriously into surfing? It's an adrenaline thing - weren't you scared the first time?" 🏄‍♀️🌊

5. Be yourself. But the best version of yourself 💪
Don't pretend. But don't write "I'm an ordinary guy, I don't know what to say" 😬. Say who you are and show that you are interested in communication. We value sincerity. Even if you're nervous, say so. It's cute 😊.

In conclusion: what really hooks 💥
We women get tired of the banal 💤. But we adore living, real, attentive men. Those who can look a little deeper 👀 than just a photo and a profile. Who can make me smile not with the number of emoticons, but with the quality of words 🎯.
If you write in such a way that I understand: "He really saw something of himself in me" - the chance of an answer is not just there. It's great 💌.
Good luck to you! ✊ And yes, don't be afraid of the first phrase - be afraid of being boring 😉
Maria💋