The big city gives freedom - but also creates a distance. People are focused on themselves, their tasks, career. Time becomes the most scarce resource. And love requires just the opposite: attention, slowdown, spiritual presence.

A run in which it is easy to lose yourself

Life in a metropolis is similar to a marathon without a finish. Work, traffic jams, deeds, meetings ... all on schedule. Even dates are often planned "between coffee and zoom", and communication in the messenger on the run. In this mode, feelings become something like luxury: if there is time left, I will do it later.

But love does not survive in the "residual principle" format. She needs space. Not physical - emotional. And when we do not give it, at some point we begin to feel the void. There are a lot of people, there are a lot of conversations, but there is no proximity.

Why is loneliness you feel more acute in the city

The paradox is that loneliness in a big city can be felt stronger than in a small village. There it is natural. Here it is contrasting. When life is seething around, and you have no one to divide the evening, a film, an emotion, then the internal dissonance becomes especially noticeable. It's like standing in the middle of an evening street in the crowd and feeling that you are invisible.

And it's not only a lack of romance. We all want to be seen. Really. And this feeling does not arise from the number of likes or quick acquaintances.

What to do with it?

To begin with - stop. Listen to yourself. Understand what you really are looking for: communication, warmth, real connection? And ask yourself an honest question: is there a place for this in your everyday life?

Love does not have to be the result of complex efforts. Sometimes it is enough to slow down a little, look around, to be more attentive to people nearby. Giving a chance to new meetings is not only for the sake of the result, but for the sake of the process itself. Because in a world where everyone is in a hurry, sincerity and attention in themselves is a manifestation of love.

The big city does not interfere with finding love.
He simply checks how much you want her - and is it ready to stop to feel.