Men, you might be interested to know why I, a woman who could be in a relationship, decided to choose solitude. No, it’s not because I don’t know how to love or don’t want to be with someone. It’s much more complicated than that. Solitude is not hard labor or selfishness. It’s a conscious decision. And perhaps, for you men, this will be a revelation. Are you ready? 😉
1. Solitude is freedom. 🌍
Do you think that being with someone is good, but being alone is boring? No, it’s not. Being in a relationship is like a subscription to constantly take care of another person. Try it on for yourself. Do you always have time to think only about yourself? How often do you manage to do what you want without regard for your partner’s feelings?
When I'm alone, the world is mine alone. I can wake up and immediately read a book 📖, do what I want, without worrying that someone is waiting for me. Yes, I sometimes feel lonely, but it's not always negative. It's a space for self-expression, for self-development, and most importantly, for enjoying every moment. 🕰️
2. I want to choose, not be "dependent". 💃
Relationships can be wonderful, but they can also turn into chains. Of course, I'm not talking about being independent in a relationship - I'm talking about being dependent on other people's expectations, on the need for confirmation, on pleasing.
But what if I want to decide for myself when and how to spend my time? When I'm alone, there are no constant obligations pressing from both sides. In solitude, I can act based on my own desires and needs. 🙌
3. No toxic games. 🎭
Men, let's be honest: relationships can often be complicated and even toxic. And while I don't believe in the myth that all men are bad, I know that there are many unclear moments when you don't understand what's really going on. Playing with feelings, silence, hidden motives, infidelity - all this is not for me.
There are no such games when I'm alone. I know that I don't have to guess what the other person wants. I can be sure that my feelings and emotions are mine. Without unnecessary intrigue. 🕵️‍♀️
4. Self-sufficiency is not boring. 😎
You may think that loneliness is boring. But in reality, being self-sufficient is incredibly exciting. Every day I discover something new: a new hobby 🎨, a new project 📈, new opportunities. I am learning to be strong 💪 and accept all aspects of myself. When I am alone, I do not fill the void in a relationship, but create it myself.
5. Understanding and respecting yourself. 🌸
In relationships, there are often moments when you forget about yourself, your needs and desires. You begin to think that it is more important to please someone else. When I was alone, I learned to value myself, listen to myself and make my own decisions. I can be my own best friend. 💖
6. The myth that I need to be in a relationship to be happy. 💫
Men, you probably thought that I cannot be a full-fledged woman if I do not have a man by my side. But this is not true at all! Happiness is not about status, but about inner harmony. I am happy and alone, and this is perhaps the most important lesson I have learned. When I realized that I can be myself and not depend on other people's opinions, I found true freedom. ✨
So why do I choose to be alone?
Because it is my space for personal growth, for self-expression, for exploring what I really want from life. This does not mean that I am not ready for a relationship in the future, but for now I do not see the need for one to be a full-fledged woman.
Maybe this will be a little unexpected for you, men, but loneliness is not emptiness. This is my personal and independent life, and it can be much more fulfilling and interesting than any relationship. 🦋
And if we ever meet, then perhaps at that moment I will be ready to share some of this freedom with you, but only if you respect it as much as I do. 💫
Kristina😘