At first, I also thought that they simply didn't want to listen. But after years of observation - as a doctor, as a woman, and as a person passionate about psychology and analysis, I realized: it's not that simple.
Men are built differently. Their brains are more "sharpened" for solving problems than for perceiving the emotional nuances of speech. This is not an excuse, it's biology. Women have more developed verbal and emotional perception - hence the need to talk, share, discuss. And in men, the brain under stress often turns on the strategy "first we'll solve, then we'll talk." But at that moment, we just want to be heard.
In addition, men often perceive women's emotions as a problem that needs to be solved, and not as a manifestation of closeness. As a result, they turn off the perception of information. Paradox: the more we want to be understood, the more they "withdraw into themselves."
But you know what works? A clear and calm explanation: “I don’t need you to decide. Just be there. Hear me.” This is not manipulation, but tuning into different “frequencies.”
Men can hear. But to do this, they don’t need to change themselves so much as understand: sometimes being there and just listening is a manifestation of strength. And we, women, can help them hear us - softly, tenderly, and without pressure!
After all, the main thing is not to win the conversation. The main thing is to stay together after it!