Jealousy without a reason is not about the situation, but about the internal state. And most often she speaks not about a partner, but about ourselves.

Where does it come from?

The most common reason is self -doubt. When a person feels that he is “not good enough”, he is afraid to be replaced. Even if the partner is attentive, caring and honest, a voice can still sound inside: "What if he finds someone better?"

Sometimes jealousy stretches from the past - from unpleasant experience or betrayal. If we have already been deceived, the brain is on his guard: he is looking for danger signals even where they are not.

There is another point: fear of losing control. When everything is fine in the relationship, it does not always give a sense of safety. It seems too good-it means that soon something will go wrong. And the alarming search "evidence" begins.

What to do with it?

The most important thing is to recognize your feelings, and not hide them and not pour them on a partner in the form of claims. If anxious, this does not mean that you are a weak or toxic person. This means that there is an internal wound, the zone of which should be carefully explored.

Good anticipation of an open conversation. Not accusations ("You communicate too much with others!"), And honesty: "Sometimes it becomes anxious to me, and I feel uncertain." The partner may not know what hurts you, and will be glad to help - if you are talking calmly on the case.

Work on herself is a long, Ala grateful process. Conversations with a psychologist, keeping a diary, restoring self -esteem through a hobby, development and care of yourself help.

Living with jealousy is not a sentence

Jealousy is not an enemy. This is a signal. It can become a growth point if you approach it with interest and honesty. She can show where you lack support, what you doubt and what old fears still live inside.

Love is not only about trust in another. This is about Dovir to herself. And if you learn to hear yourself, understand your feelings - jealousy will cease to be a storm and turn into a light wind that reminds: "You value this person. Just do not forget to value yourself."