It is not necessary to fill in every pause with words. Sometimes we speak out of politeness, out of awkwardness or out of fear to seem detached. But if there is real proximity between you, you do not need to “entertain” each other with an endless stream of phrases. The ability to be silent together is a special level of comfort.

Silence as a way to be near

When the relationship is just beginning, we strive to tell everything and find out everything. This is a period when I want to hear the voice of my beloved constantly. But over time, depth comes. We begin to understand each other from a half -look, read the mood by intonation and respect personal space.

Silence does not mean a lack of feelings. Sometimes it's just a way to give another to catch your breath. After all, each person sometimes needs silence: to think, recover, listen to himself. And if a partner is able to give this, he is not offended, does not insist, does not scare - this is a value.

How to distinguish warm silence from cold

Of course, silence is different. It can be peaceful - like an evening sitting next to a cup of tea. Or maybe tense when the words stuck somewhere deep inside. In order not to confuse one with another, it is important to be sensitive. If silence is felt as a distance, it is worth talking about it openly. But if you feel calm next to a person, it means that this is the same silence in which love lives.

When silence is a sign of trust

Not all feelings can be expressed in words. Sometimes we are silent from an excess of emotions. Or because we understand: everything is said. We are just good together - without explanation, without plans, without discussion.

At such moments, silence becomes a confirmation: “I am with you. I feel good. I do not need to say anything so that you understand. " This is real proximity.

What helps to learn to be silent together
- Do not be afraid of a pause. They are not dangerous if there is trust between you.
- Respect the inner world of the partner. Sometimes a person needs to be in himself.
- Talk about silence. If you are worried that they don’t hear you, tell me about it.
- Learn to listen - not only your ears, but also with your heart.

Silence is not an enemy of love. She can become her ally. It is only important to learn how to distinguish lively, calm silence from the one behind which resentment or alienation is hidden. And if you can be silent together and feel that you are nearby, then you really have a connection that you do not need to prove in words.