And yet, when feelings take over completely, it is easy to lose your bearings: where is “us” and where is “me”?
🌱 Why is this important?

Relationships in which one of the partners sacrifices themselves to maintain the connection do not last long. At first, it may seem romantic: “I do everything for him!”, “She is the whole world to me!”

But then fatigue sets in. Resentment. Loss of self.

Healthy relationships are not a game of victimhood. It is a union of two people who have their own lives, interests, desires - and at the same time there is a common space of love. 💡 How to save yourself in a relationship:
1. Don't be afraid to say "I want"

Your opinion, desires, feelings are no less important than his. This is not selfishness. This is self-respect.

💬 Instead of:
"I don't care where I go"
💬 Say:
"I would like a quiet evening tonight, without noise. How about you?"
2. Don't give up your world

Hobbies, friends, dreams, style, music - this is your inner home. Don't rent it out, even if you are very much in love.

Your partner came into your life because you were interesting, alive, real. Don't give up yourself so that he can "live comfortably".
3. Remember: love ≠ control

Jealousy, prohibitions, checking phones - this is not care, but fear. In a healthy relationship there is trust and freedom.

You are not obliged to "prove" your love with controlled behavior. You can be yourself — and that's enough.
4. Talk about feelings, don't blame

Irritation, anger, resentment — are normal. But there's a difference between "you drive me crazy" and "it's hard for me when I feel unheard."

💬 Advice:
Speak in the first person, describing how you feel, and not blaming.
5. Don't be afraid of loneliness

Paradox: those who are not afraid to be alone build the strongest relationships. Because they don't "hold on" to a partner, but choose them — every day, consciously.

You don't have to be with someone for the sake of "the fear of being alone." You are already whole. And a relationship is just a wonderful addition.
💬 Conclusion:

Keeping yourself alive is not about selfishness. It's about maturity, boundaries, honesty. True love begins where two people see each other, but don't lose themselves.

Let your relationship not be “halves”, but a union of two strong, happy people.