Instead of using it to protect yourself and achieve goals, you hide it deep inside. And then you wonder: why do you want to cry, scream or... just disappear?

Let's figure out what healthy and unhealthy aggression is, how it affects the body and soul — and what can be done about it.

💪 Aggression is not evil

In society, the word "aggression" is often frightening. But from a psychological point of view, it is a basic emotion. The energy with which we protect our boundaries, say "no", defend our desires and move towards our goals 🚦.

✅ Healthy aggression helps:

* say "this doesn't suit me",
* ask for respect,
* fight for what you want without feeling guilty.

📌 Signs of healthy aggression:

1. It is directed outward, not inward.

2. The strength of irritation is proportionate to the event.

🚨 But here are the signs of suppressed aggression

Suppressed aggression leads to failures - both in the body and in behavior. Here are its masks:

1. Outbursts of rage without apparent reason
You "exploded" on a loved one, although he just happened to be nearby. All because you were silent for a long time, endured, saved up.

2. Autoaggression — when you are angry not at others, but at yourself:

* shame and self-flagellation 😔
* bad habits 🍷
* risky behavior
* workaholism and exhaustion 💼

3. Passive aggression** — hidden but poisonous:

* resentment and silent boycotts 😑
* sarcasm, barbs
* "forgetfulness" and being late
* slamming doors 🚪

4. Psychosomatics
Suppressed emotions are a common cause of hypertension, gastrointestinal problems, skin diseases and chronic stress.
The body says: "It hurts me that you are silent."

🤔 Why are you suppressing anger?

* We were taught: getting angry is ugly, shameful, bad.
* It was dangerous to show feelings in the family.
* You are afraid that aggression will destroy the relationship, and so you "swallow" it.
* And perhaps even in the womb, you already felt that your activity was a threat.

Over time, a belief is formed: getting angry = dying. And you live, holding yourself back, not realizing that this is slowly destroying you 💣.

🛠 What to do about it?

1. Realize that you are angry.
Just saying to yourself: "I am irritated" is already half the work 🧠

2. Feel the body.
Where is the tension? What is it telling you? Observe - without judgment. Become a friend to your body 🤝

3. Express emotions safely.

* Express your feelings through "I-messages":
*not "You are to blame", but "I feel angry when..."*
* Go to sports - run, punch a punching bag, swim 🏃‍♀️🥊🏊‍♂️
* Create: draw, sing, dance 🎨🎶
* Do meditation, yoga, breathing practices 🧘‍♀️

💬 Important: aggression ≠ violence

Emotions are not a crime. They do not make you a bad person.
Behavior is what you are responsible for. And it can be controlled.

💡 Bottom line:

Suppressing aggression is harmful. Realizing and directing it is powerful 💥
You have the right to be angry. You have the right to protect yourself. You have the right to be alive.

If you can't cope on your own, seek help. Psychotherapy is not weakness. It's self-care ❤️