Small irritations are like a signal: voltage has accumulated in the relationship. We do not always know how to speak directly about our needs, fatigue or resentment. Therefore, a trifle becomes a convenient occasion to throw out emotions. This is not about the mug - this is about the feeling that they do not hear you, do not understand or respect.

Why do we need quarrels?

Paradoxically, it is precisely such outbreaks that often help to “blow” the emotional atmosphere in pairs. They make it possible to speak out, relieve tension and even clarify what exactly is bothering. It is only important not to ignore these signals and not turn them into a chronicle of grievances.

Sometimes it is better to rot a little and hear each other than to save irritation for months. Quarrels are like prevention: they do not allow a large explosion.

How to quarrel correctly

There are no ideal relationships without conflicts. The main thing is how exactly we express dissatisfaction. If you swear to figure it out, and not to offend, this does not destroy, but rather brings together.

It is important to learn to talk about your feelings, and not to blame. Instead: "You ruined everything again!" - To say: "I am unpleasant when you do it." A simple change in formulation can change the tone of the entire quarrel.

And do not forget that in any quarrel, a deeper question is often hidden: “Do you see me? Do you hear? Respect? " - It is to answer him.

When little things are not just trifles

It happens that quarrels occur too often and become a communication style. This may indicate that distrust, fatigue or even hidden aggression have accumulated in the relationship. In this case, it is important not to focus on superficial repetitions, but to try to talk about the main thing: what exactly are you missing?

Sometimes for irritation is a banal lack of heat, attention, rest or recognition. Quarrels - as an indicator that it is time to stop arguing about slippers and start hugging.

Quarrels are not enemies of relations. They can be a way to “clean the air” if you treat them with understanding. The main thing is not to let them grow into the habit and remember: behind every trifle, because of which we are angry, there is often something important. And if we talk about this honestly and with love - such quarrels can become the beginning of greater understanding.