But real life works differently. Ideals created by artistic imagination can become a trap, especially if you expect a script from a partner written not by us.

Expectations against reality

In the cinema, no one snores at night, does not forget to buy milk and does not go to his senses after a hard day. But in life - this is part of everyday life. When we subconsciously compare our partner with fictional heroes, disappointment arises. He is not as attentive as the hero of the novel. She does not respond to compliments as in the film. We expect a fairy tale, but we get everyday life - and we do not always know how to accept it.

Art stories give hope, inspire, help to dream. This is normal - to look for examples of love that touches the heart. But it is important to remember: this is not an instruction for action, but a beautiful illustration. Films and books rarely show that love is work, compromises and the ability to be near the most unattractive moments.

Ideals are needed in order to be inspired, and not demand the impossible from yourself and others. Otherwise, it is easy to turn into someone who is forever looking for a “movie hero”, skipping a real person.

How to preserve romance without losing reality
It is not necessary to give up dreams. The problem is not in romantic films, but if they become the only landmark. It is much more useful - to use them as an occasion to think: what is really important to me? What love do I need - not on the screen, but in life?

If your partner does not sing serenads and does not suit surprises in the rain, this does not mean that there is no love. Perhaps he just makes you tea every morning. Or silently supports in difficult times. This is not a Hollywood scene, but maybe this is exactly what is genuine intimacy?

Ideals from films and books can inspire, but do not confuse inspiration with expectations. Love in life is not always a beautiful picture, but it is real. And if you allow her to be imperfect, it can be much deeper than any fictitious story.