Love does not die suddenly.
It goes away little by little — in silence, in omissions, in that moment when you look at your loved one and no longer feel the warmth in your chest. That's how it was for me. We broke up quietly. Without drama, without screaming. We just let each other go. It seemed quiet. But inside it was loud. Very loud.
🌧️ Pain does not make you weak
The first days after a breakup are like falling into a black hole. I blamed myself. I tried to understand what I did wrong. I replayed conversations, phrases, gestures — everything I could. I cried, didn’t sleep at night, refused food, refused people. It was a shock. But then I realized: pain is not an enemy. It is a cleansing process. It is needed for the heart to let go of what is no longer yours.
🪞 Love is a mirror
I realized that love shows us who we are. It reveals our fears, our weak points. Through relationships, I saw how much I was afraid of being unnecessary. How often I tried to deserve love, proving my worth with my actions. I saw how I lost myself, dissolving in him. And this was my greatest discovery.
🧠 To love is not to save
I used to think that love is patience, acceptance, fighting to the last. Now I know: love is when you feel calm next to a person. Without eternal anxiety, without the fear of being rejected. To love is not to save and not to wait for someone to save you. It is to be there when both want to go together, and not to drag someone along.
🦋 A breakup is a chance for a new life
The most amazing thing is that I did not break. I grew up. I became stronger. I became purer. I remembered who I am again. I started doing what I love. I got my voice, body, and desires back. Yes, it was hard. But I don’t regret it. Because now I know how to love differently — starting with myself.
💡 My conclusion:
Sometimes a breakup is a gift disguised as a loss. It teaches us the main thing: no relationship is more important than the relationship with yourself. And if you are in pain now — know: this too shall pass. You will grow up. You will open up. And you will love again — for real. 🌷