What destroys relations at a distance

1. Expectations without reality

When the partners idealize each other, and real life remains behind the scenes, illusions collapse sooner or later. The image of a “ideal” person is created that does not exist - and any mismatch causes disappointment.

2. Lack of communication

“I had a difficult day, I’ll write tomorrow” - and now the day of silence is turning into two, then in the cold week. Without regular communication, the connection weakens, a feeling of loneliness arises, even if you are still “in a relationship”.

3. Jealousy and distrust

When you are far, it is much easier to come up with what is not. One does not answer a couple of hours - and the other already has imagination in his head. Without trust, the distance becomes not only a physical, but also an emotional abyss.

4. Blurry plans for the future

If the couple does not have a clear understanding when they see again or how long the separation will last, this creates a feeling of infinity. And it can tire even the most lovers.

What strengthens relations at a distance

1. Openness and honesty

No need to try to seem more or more impeccable. It is important to share your feelings, even if they are painful: “I miss”, “I am lonely”, “I am worried.” This creates emotional closeness, even if you are far away.

2. Regular communication

It is not necessary to spend 5 hours on video communication every day. Simple messages, calls, voice - the main thing is that the other person knows: you are nearby, you think about him.

3. Small attention signs

An unexpected gift by mail, a letter, a postcard, photography - all this works stronger than words. Such gestures prove: "You are important to me, even if we are far away."

4. General plans

The presence of a goal is the key to survival of relations at a distance. It is important to understand why you are doing all this: when you see, when you are together, how you will solve the issues of moving or organizing life together.


Love at a distance is not a sentence, but a test. It is not for everyone, and this is normal. But if the feelings are sincere, and the efforts are mutual - the distance becomes not a barrier, but the opportunity to get to know each other deeper, learn to appreciate the presence and invest in a relationship consciously.

Not kilometers destroy love. It is destroyed by indifference, silence and the absence of a goal. And, on the contrary, they strengthen - trust, support, honesty and willingness to meet. Because even at a distance, love can grow - if you deal with it.