Why is this happening?

Admission is a natural part of any relationship. The human brain is arranged so that over time it adapts to everything, even to the good. Especially if this is repeated every day.

The partner brought tea while we worked? Once it seemed incredibly sweet. Now - just a gesture of politeness. Did he call in the middle of the day? It used to be a reason for joy, now - "What happened?"

More and more often we pay attention to what we lack, and less and less - to what we get. And this makes the relationship vulnerable.

What are the attention signs we underestimate?

1. Simple worries.
Cover with a blanket, cook your favorite dish, leave the last cookies to you - these are all ways to say “I love you”, only without words.

2. Interest in your affairs.
When a person asks how your day has passed, and really listens - it is not just politeness. This is a sign that you are important.

3. Little concessions.
He does not like comedy, but your favorite series is watching with you. She does not eat spicy, but cooks borsch with pepper. This is also concern, just in a different form.

4. Presence.
Just be near when you feel bad. Do not give advice, do not save, but simply silently holding the hand - this is silence, which speaks more than a thousand words.
Why is it important to notice them?

When we see only what is missing, we lose the value of what is already there. But it is in the little things that real proximity lives. Relations are not built only on great actions. They consist of tiny steps towards each other.

When we begin to notice these little things, gratitude appears in the relationship again. And where there is gratitude - there are fewer offenses, reproaches and complaints.
How to learn to see more?

Stay. Stop taking good for granted. Look at the partner with a fresh look. Ask yourself the question: "What is he/she is doing for me every day, what I do not notice?" The answers may surprise.

And, of course, you should not only notice, but also talk about it. "Thank you for calling." "I am so pleased that you thought of me." A simple phrase - and the effect can be stronger than an expensive gift.

Love is not loud words. This is a cup of coffee cooked in the morning. This is a message: "get home and write." These are trifles that are not striking, but without which everything loses its meaning.

To notice the signs of attention is art. And if we take possession of them, the relationship will become stronger. Because in every day there is definitely something that you can be grateful for. You just need to start watching more carefully.