What is tenderness?

These are not only affectionate words and embrace. Tenderness is, first of all, a careful attitude to the feelings of another person. This is the ability to be soft even in a difficult situation. This is a look in which understanding. A touch in which is concern. Words in which are warm, not reproach.

Why do we forget about tenderness?

Often it seems to us that the main thing is to be interesting, bright, funny, “in good shape”. We are afraid to seem weak, too sensitive or “unproductive” in relations. As a result, much turns into exchange with the requirements: “You must”, “I want”, “Why didn’t you do ...”. And tenderness disappears - quietly, almost imperceptibly.

We forget that relations are not only about tasks and goals, but also about the atmosphere. And if the house is warm, I want to return to it.

The power of softness

Tenderness does not make us weak. On the contrary, it requires courage. Say: “I am sad. Can you just hug? " - It is much more difficult than keeping silent or rolling a scandal. To reassure, and not prick in response, is not weakness, but inner maturity.

Sometimes one warm word makes more than a hundred arguments. And one evening, spent in the silent acceptance of each other, treats that they cannot heal long conversations.

How to return tenderness in a relationship?

It is very simple to start yourself. Remember that your partner is a living person, with his fears, fatigue, experiences. Do not wait for him to be the first to show warmth, but take a step himself.

Smile, touch your hands, say something good for no reason. Do not rush, do not crush, do not correct. Just be near and be soft. Sometimes this is enough for the atmosphere to begin to change in a relationship.

Tenderness is not striking. She does not scream about herself. But she gives a feeling of safety and love. It’s like a warm blanket on a cold evening - not necessarily fashionable, not always noticeable, but so necessary. If there is tenderness in the pair, the relationship breathes. And if you learn to appreciate it, this will be your most reliable power.