Sometimes I think that the most serious assumptions do not require loud proof. They live in small quantities. Including how someone knows how to be near and not destroy your space. How you can just sit next to — and not explain anything.

There is an awkward silence. The one that asks to trust. Words come to mind, even if you do not want to talk. You want to turn on music, joke, hide behind empty phrases. And there is another silence — the one in which it is calm.

I once said: "You will understand that next to you is your person, when you can be silent together and not feel awkward." And it is true. You can communicate a lot, laugh, argue, share stories - and still it is not good. Or you can just sit next to each other and look out the window. Drink tea. Breathe next to each other. And that will be enough.

I remember the evening when my friend and I went to a small house in the woods. The day was cold, the wind was blowing, but it was warm inside. We just sat by the fireplace, wrapped in blankets. I held a cup of cocoa in my hands, she held a book. We did not talk, and at that moment I felt how rare it is to allow yourself such a luxury - silence next to someone.

Not because there is nothing to say. But because nothing needs to be said. Everything is already clear. The energy next to each other matches, you breathe the same. There is no tension, no need to prove your innovativeness, no desire to be unique at any cost.

Nowadays, people are afraid of silence. We listen to something all the time - podcasts, music, background conversations. Even when we fall asleep, we turn on TV series. Maybe we are afraid to be alone with ourselves? Or are we not sure that without words we will be interesting to others?

But a person with whom you can separate silence is probably the most tender closeness. Not the one that screams "look how good we are", not the one that requires confirmation of feelings. But quiet, almost invisible. Like a touch with a glance. Like a warm hand on your shoulder, without words.

With such a person you can read, cook, watch a movie and not discuss it right away. You can walk down the street, you can only hear footsteps. You can just be - and feel how calm breathes nearby.

It seems to me that such people are rare. And when you meet them - you do not want to let them go. that you suddenly realize, finally you are based on the strange. From words, fears were hidden behind achievements. From masks. From the need to be "interesting", "funny", "convenient". And with this person you can just be yourself. Be silent. Forget about the game. And this is incredibly valuable.

In such silence, everything is present and audible: the heartbeat, the water dripping into the sink, the wind outside the window touching the glass. And in this transparent simplicity, there is amazing depth.

I often think that relationships are not about talking. They are about the ability to be there when nothing is happening. When you don’t need a show, adventure, or plot. Just an ordinary evening, and you are both at home. Or a walk without a goal. Or sitting in the kitchen, sorting berries for a pie. Someone yawns, someone smiles, someone is simply silent.

Sometimes I want to check: can I just be silent with a person? If yes, it is a good sign. It means I am calm. It means he does not scare me with my silence. And I do not want to fill the silence just because I am afraid of seeming boring.

Silence nearby is like a mirror. If you feel anxious in silence next to a person, maybe it is not with him that you are afraid, but with you? And if you feel understanding, it is probably more than words.

I do not romanticize silence. Sometimes we are silent not because of comparison, but because of resentment. But this is not about that. But about the kind of silence that heals. Calms. Speak for us.

I want to be with someone with whom I do not need to explain why I suddenly fell silent. Who will not be afraid of my immersion in myself. Who himself knows how to be near - not intrusively, not with pressure, but simply ... be.

Do not throw unnecessary questions. No answers are required. Just hand me a cup of tea, cover me with a blanket, and that will be enough.

Sometimes it seems that such a difficult person can be found. But if you have found one, you want to cherish it. What is in the world, full of sound, silence - this is connectedness. Almost like a touch. Almost like a look.

With whom you can share silence - with him you can do everything. Because of this, trust begins.