Hello, men! 🙋‍♀️I am writing to you as a woman who has opened new messages on a dating site more than once. I want to lift the curtain: what is going on in a woman’s head when she reads your first message?
I will say right away - the first phrase decides a lot. It either turns on interest or causes a yawn. In the worst case, it instantly sends you to "ignore". ❌
1. 🧠 We don’t just read - we scan
We evaluate not only the words, but also the subtext. Is the message polite? Respectful? Original? “Hi. How are you?” - alas, it’s like an empty glass. But:
“You look like a woman who has something interesting inside. Tell us a little about yourself?” — already interesting 😉
2. ❤️ We feel why you are here
If you say straight to the point: “You are sexy. Want to date?” — ​​well... no thanks. It is important for us to feel: a man wants to get to know us, and not just “appreciated” the photo. The formula works: Me + You + Why I am writing to you. For example:
“You are not like others. And that’s great. Tell me what your superpower is?”
3. ✍️ Yes, we notice mistakes
Don’t be a perfectionist, but basic literacy is a must. Mistakes in three lines are like a stain on a white shirt on a first date.
4. 🕵️‍♀️ Copypasta is visible from a mile away
Want to arouse interest? Write as if you are addressing one and only woman. Not a crowd. Believe me, you can feel it right away 💫

💡 A little advice from us:
* Write as if you are interesting to yourself.
* Mention something specific from her profile.
* Be alive. Real. Don't be afraid of light irony or gentle courage.

Men, we really want to communicate. But not with just anyone - with someone who is not afraid to be a living person, and not just a profile. And maybe she will reread your first message later... with a smile 😊
— A female voice from the other side of the screen 💬
Anna😉