💡 Why does this happen?

In any close relationship, we bring our values and expectations:
– Don’t lie
– Don’t cheat
– Don’t degrade
– Respect agreements

Seems obvious. But not to everyone. And that’s where the pain (and the lesson) begins.

When someone lies, betrays, or twists what you agreed on — they might still throw at you:
“What did you expect? I never promised anything!”
🎭 Classic manipulator move: blame the one who trusted.

🧠 Trust Isn’t Weakness — It’s a Strength

Your kindness, empathy, desire for real connection and family — these are NOT flaws.
They’re a valuable currency. And in mature, healthy relationships, they’re honored and reciprocated.
But in toxic ones? That’s exactly where you get *trapped*.

📌 Important to realize:
You are not obligated to trust by default. No one *deserves* trust just because they ask for it.

Why?

> 💬 “An honest person doesn’t ask for trust — they simply live honestly.”

Real trust is not an emotion handed out in advance.
It’s a result — when words *match* actions, time after time, with no sketchy excuses or “broken phones.”

🚩 Red Flags

* Constant “explanations” for weird behavior 🕵️‍♂️
* Pressure to trust them right away — or else you’re “too suspicious”
* Guilt-tripping you for protecting yourself
* Boundary-pushing disguised as “you’re just too sensitive”

✅ Trust those who:
– Are transparent
– Act consistently
– Don’t cause physical tension in your body
– Respect your hesitation

🧘‍♀️ Your body always knows where the truth is. Listen to it.

🧭 Not a Problem — A Signal

If you expected love, honesty, and presence — that’s not your mistake.
It means you’re capable of giving those things. And you’re looking for someone who can truly give them back.
Protect that part of you 💛 — and don’t let it be devalued by those who can’t afford its worth.

📌 Your expectations are not your problem.

Your expectations reflect who you are.
And that’s exactly what scares those who aren’t ready to live with integrity.